"It's not a race"- Things to Consider when a Potty Training Graduate Still Wets the Bed
Since entering into motherhood a few years ago, I like to think I've learned a thing or two. I mean, I'm still totally clueless most days, but I have learned at least a few good things. What priceless knowledge may that be?
- Parenthood is all the emotions. From the highest of highs to the lowest of lows, that is parenthood.
- You may think you're in control, but you're not. I know, total bummer.
- Not all kids hit milestones or develop at the same pace (if they did, I can promise you this whole parenting thing would be A LOT easier).
For example (c'mon, you saw an example coming, right?), I have my own experience with my own child.
Let's start with all the emotions.
I remember when Octavian started potty training. Within that journey I experienced everything from sadness, fear, disgust, exhaustion, frustration, annoyance and near rage. Come to think of it, I'm pretty sure these are all emotions I experience daily. Jk I'm not that bad.
Anyway, it wasn't just me. My child felt all the same feelings.
So, as you can imagine, every time he made even the slightest progress my heart practically exploded with happiness and joy as I melted into a pile of mush; I knew my baby was one step further away from needing me.
And then there's the whole idea of control. This tid bit of knowledge actually ties in with number three, but standing alone, I learned that in most cases, firing off demands as an attempt to gain control is usually futile. Just like I could not control my newborns sleep schedule (THAT was a rough wakeup call), or his need to be rocked or walked or bounced at all times for nearly the first year of his life, I still can't truly control him.
My job, as his mom, has been to shift the focus from control, and learn a better way to work with him in a way that works for him.
That brings me to my third point- rate of developmental milestones.
When I was pregnant a good friend told me, "Just remember it's not a race." I didn't really understand what she meant at the time because, well, I didn't know ANYTHING at that time. But, nearly four years later, I think I finally get it.
All children develop emotionally, physically, and mentally at much different rates (this is proven, you guys, I'm not just saying this). Of course, it's human nature to want to be on the top, but it just is not that way after you have children.
It isn't in my control.
When Octavian was a newborn I obsessed over his weight because newborns HAVE to eat every two hours and HAVE to follow a specific curve. You guyssss, it's too much pressure. His curve and weight and eating was just fine even when he didn’t eat every two hours.
Then potty training happened. Octavian was potty trained for daytime relatively easily. Minus his need to go #2 outside or in a closet (incentives like candy and stickers work really well here), it was smooth sailing.
An accident here, and accident there- I realized he wasn't nighttime ready. To be completely honest, it did not bother me if he took a little longer to get the whole nighttime thing down. But when friends would ask or make comments about his nighttime wetting, I got concerned.
Don't be like me, you guys. Remind yourself, it's not a race.
A friend suggested GoodNites NightTime Underwear for nighttime use. Unlike other things I’ve tried, GoodNites NightTime Underwear, the #1 NightTime Protection Brand, are specifically designed to fit and provide outstanding protection for young children who still experience nighttime wetting. They come in a wide range of sizes, including a S/M size that is perfect for my little one – it fits smaller children who are potty trained during the day, but still wet at night, like Octavian.
After talking with my pediatrician and educating myself about nighttime wetting on the GoodNites website, I no longer feel any worry to pressure my preschooler to stay dry throughout the night. I learned that a lot of children finish potty training and stay dry all day, but continue experiencing nighttime wetting until their own body is physically ready to take on such a task.
This takes time.
So, until that day arrives, we have GoodNites.
And, oh man does Octavian love these NightTime Underwear! Much less bulky and so easy to take on and off, he was most excited about the Iron Man print (even if he has never seen the movie).
So, you guys, in most ways my child is on his way to being a big kid. An independent, stubborn, SMART and happy kid. He wakes up in the morning, switches to underwear, picks his own outfit (which currently HAS to be pants and a long sleeve shirt), rummages through the refrigerator for his breakfast and will try to sneak cartoons. I mean, he's pretty awesome.
Nighttime wetting? No biggie.
^^^Juniper getting her own lesson in Nighttime Underwear
My all-time favorite place to purchase GoodNites (and everything else) is Sam's Club. If you've been a parent for longer than 2 minutes, then you have probably, completely unexpectedly, run out of diapers, Pull-Ups, wipes or overnight underwear for your kiddos at least once.
I've been there and, somehow, it's always at the worst possible time.
I finally learned my lesson and now stock up (I even hide a pack in the garage).
But, exciting stuff – now through 7/16 you can save $18 for 3 or $10 for 2 on any combination of Huggies Diapers, Pull-Ups or GoodNites, or Wipes with instant savings at Sam’s Club. The deal is available both in-store and online so check it out.
AND, this deal applies to online shopping with FREE shipping!
But wait! (this is my FAVORITE part)- You can also order online and use drive-through club pick-up. For anyone with at least one child, this is probably the MOST HELPFUL thing ever! For my friends out there with three and four children? You're welcome :)
Of course, if you love to go inside and spend all your money (that's me!), Sam’s Club’s Scan & Go is also great for getting your shopping done without having to wait in line. Because who likes to wait in line?